Every time I am asked what I do and I answer "I am a life coach" the inherent next question is: "and what is exactly that you're doing?". Hmm, a few seconds of awkward silence :). And it's not because I don't know what I'm doing as a coach, but because coaching is something easier to experiment for yourself than to explain in a few words.
I'll start with a short (hopefully) story about how I got here, hoping to shed some light also about who I am and why I am doing this.
Ever since high-school I was inspired by a teacher to focus my attention on psychology and everything human related. My dream back then was to have my own practice, people coming to me, telling me what's bothering them, me helping them get passed problems.
I started a career in Human Resources, been through many areas of this kind of work, from end to end recruitment, to forming teams, to performance upraises, people relations and interactions, processes.
Over the years I noticed that the most fulfilling part of my work was the reaction and results people had when they came to me with struggles (either personal or professional) and I was able to offer input, ideas, new perspectives and sometimes just an ear - they would find their own solution while telling me about it, and I did not even need to say a word.
Of course, I had my own struggles, worked a lot on personal growth, and every time I felt stuck, telling a good listener about it helped me figure out my next move.
I learned about life coaching about 5 years ago, and my first reaction was: "wait, what?? you mean I need someone to tell me what to do in/with my life? now, ain't that a good joke?" :)) Yeap, I can understand this kind of reaction, especially because coaching is not something you can fully understand with just some explanation.
After thorough reading about it, I put it aside for a while. Then, we met again, this time I was prepared to look at it from another perspective. And the more I read and experimented it, I realised that at a certain intuitive level, it was the very same thing I was doing in my work that was giving me those fulfilling results I talked about earlier.
And that was the moment I decided to pursue this at a professional level.
Why professional you might ask? Because in order for me to feel that I give full value to the people that trust me in this process, I needed to have a solid background, not just use my intuition and my personal life experience.
At first I took a "Personal development counselor" course and a trainer certificate, but I felt that it was not enough, did not offer me full support, tools and mechanisms to feel that I am prepared to do this properly. So I went even further and searched a coaching course that had the content I felt I needed. So, now, together with all the practice I've accumulated over the past 3 years, I have also the professional studies :)
Change is inevitable, and as long as you realise that and put your attention on it, you can, at some level, control your personal development, you get to decide who you want to be, to become, how you want your life to be day by day.
I have a 6-year-old daughter that is one of my greatest teachers when it comes to personal development, she has a great way of pin pointing exactly the areas that maybe I did not pay enough attention over the years, leading me to grow every day.
But growing is a personal choice. Change is inevitable, growing is a matter of conscious choice.
I am choosing every day to grow.
Now what about you?
P.S. On a second reading of this article, it seems to me a little too serious :))). Life can be fun (by choice). Coaching also can be fun. Cause why not? Let's enjoy ourselves while growing :).
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